tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post1106041617740503370..comments2023-08-06T04:28:52.092-04:00Comments on Karen Morton: You say, "Thank you". I say, "You're welcome".Karenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03309823327597536648noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-84083969366699979892012-12-02T12:45:55.118-05:002012-12-02T12:45:55.118-05:00I have always been taught when someone says, "...I have always been taught when someone says, "Thank you" you reply with "You're welcome". I grew up in the south and manners were entrenched into the fabric of our everyday lives. Rude behavior has become abundant unfortunately. People are too focused on their technology driven devices that they don't even take a moment to remember the kindness and good manners we show everyone we interact with daily. I have several pet peeves, but rudeness rates at the top of my #1 pet peeve. Take the time and be kind, remember you get what you give. It only takes a moment to say "You're welcome", and there I said it more than once in this quick paragraph.<br /><br />Have a wonderful day!Janet Arnwinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02922444123927827087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-61890929623445848832012-02-08T14:47:40.242-05:002012-02-08T14:47:40.242-05:00My wife thinks I'm nut because it bothers me w...My wife thinks I'm nut because it bothers me when people respond "no problem."<br /><br />So she sent this to me. When I responded that at least I'm not too crazy, or the only crazy person out there who feels this way, she said at least Karen has an excuse: she's a southern gal.<br /><br />Oh snap!Aceboympkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06832526305674647473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-61244692528983014412011-05-30T14:42:53.808-04:002011-05-30T14:42:53.808-04:00I don't hear that irritating
No Problem as muc...I don't hear that irritating<br />No Problem as much as I used to...<br /><br />I've noticed that the talking heads on TV for quite a while respond to Thank You with the inane response Thank You indicating to me they are terrible communicators.<br /><br /><br />"Civility refers to behaviour between persons and groups that conforms to a social mode in accordance with the civil society, being a foundational principle of society and law. It carries the essence of politeness, courtesy, good manners, courteousness, respect, graciousness and consideration."Kakabekahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16428587052298901738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-9374552209261270512009-10-26T08:21:06.834-04:002009-10-26T08:21:06.834-04:00Caralyn,
I think a genuine response is the best r...Caralyn,<br /><br />I think a genuine response is the best response...the words are secondary. It sounds like your patients "get it" that you care and that's what matters most.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309823327597536648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-4373110191004024682009-10-25T22:14:41.194-04:002009-10-25T22:14:41.194-04:00Funny- I actually googled the question "is it...Funny- I actually googled the question "is it rude to say no problem instead of you're welcome"<br />and found this post. For the life of me, when I'm at work I have such a hard time saying "you're welcome". I always say 'no problem', but I've been questioning as of late if that's appropriate.<br /><br />Let me explain.<br />I'm a nurse, and my patients and their families thank me all day for bathing them, changing their sheets if they're incontinent, giving them medications, or just stopping by to check on them. They thank me for asking if they are okay or in pain. They thank me for doing the basics. I haven't saved a life, I've just given them what is expected, what they deserve, and basic courtesy. They thank me for simply caring enough to spend time to talk to them. <br />It's funny, because all day I thought about this while replying with my signature smile and 'no problem'. I do make a point to not be flippant about my response, however.<br /><br />For me, to say 'you're welcome' feels like I'm taking credit for something that I don't really deserve. I'm doing my job. I'm simply making their stay on my floor as comfortable as possible, because not only is it my job, but they deserve it. And it Should be done. It shouldn't be something special, or noteworthy. It's just what it is.<br /><br />Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my job, my patients, and their families. I love doing what I do, and I love that I get to help them get better, no matter if they are in a bad mood, messed the sheets, or need help standing so they can go to the restroom. I love it, and I get so much joy from doing it. But it feels selfish to me to say 'you're welcome'.<br /><br />I'm from the south as well, so I'm raised with ma'am, sir, thank you and please as well... but when it comes to 'you're welcome' at my job, I just can't seem to spit it out.Caralynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409530078607512069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-18014807087780785332009-06-13T22:50:16.024-04:002009-06-13T22:50:16.024-04:00Actually I have your pet peeve in reverse. While o...Actually I have your pet peeve in reverse. While on occasion you're welcome seems most appropriate and polite, I find that people who say it constantly are telling me that there they did what they did out of a sense of "proper-ness" (obligation), and likewise by saying you're welcome, it feels like it was an effort, rather than coming from the heart. This is particularly so when a compliment is given. To say you're welcome after being thanked makes me question the sincerity of it.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09181687673117024490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-24147980142079400972009-05-29T18:46:10.473-04:002009-05-29T18:46:10.473-04:00Definitely say "You're Welcome!" I Even send out "...Definitely say "You're Welcome!" I Even send out "You're Welcome Cards" Check them out, they are great for laughs- www.yourewelcomecards.comimadork8https://www.blogger.com/profile/16696001077857769185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-3115837696070035952009-03-01T17:58:00.000-05:002009-03-01T17:58:00.000-05:00I think "you're welcome" is the nicest response to...I think "you're welcome" is the nicest response to "thank you."<BR/>It is humble to say "you're welcome..."<BR/>It closes the gratitude loop. People are afraid to do that because when they have done something nice, they are one up in the spreadsheet of life. When you say "you're welcome" you even out the spreadsheet for the other person. When you say "thank you" back, you increase the spreadsheet in your favor...now that person has to say something and if they say nothing they still owe you. It is fear of humility that keeps "you're welcome" away. None of us wants to be beholden to the other... think of the joke about the unending feedback loop of "thank you," "no, thank you!", "no, really, thank you!", NO! Thank you!!!"<BR/><BR/>Saying you're welcome is simple, humble, and closes the loop entirely allowing both people dignity and graciousness. Saying thank you back keeps the loop open while saying things like "no problem" creates more questions like "dang, should I have thought it was a problem?"<BR/><BR/>Just be humble -- say "you're welcome" when someone thanks you. They will be astounded most of the time and feel even better about the whole affair.<BR/><BR/>http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=home#/pages/Youre-Welcome/51913062219?ref=nfspinfisherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01597671568328613029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-75565236090233103672009-02-03T18:14:00.000-05:002009-02-03T18:14:00.000-05:00Good one Joel! That was almost word-for-word how ...Good one Joel! That was almost word-for-word how the comments on my post played out. <BR/><BR/>OK everyone....I give up! I get it that the words aren't important. It's the acknowledgment that matters regardless of how it's worded. <BR/><BR/>I've been listening even more carefully lately and have noticed quite a mix of responses to my thank you's. And, the only time I really get annoyed is when the response "has an attitude". If it's a genuine acknowledgment and not a huffy response that sounds like the person is put out just to have to help me out, then I'm good to go.<BR/><BR/>So, bring on "no worries", "no problem", "my pleasure", "you betcha" and whatever other response you've got in you. I'll cheerfully accept. Just please don't huff at me when you give it (that I still can't get over). :)Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309823327597536648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-79030828935066004802009-02-03T18:03:00.000-05:002009-02-03T18:03:00.000-05:00Do your googling before you rant! :-)http://www.u...Do your googling before you rant! :-)<BR/><BR/>http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20081014<BR/><BR/>word: redismsJoel Garryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13325061229393838224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-45663256184613902552009-01-22T11:44:00.000-05:002009-01-22T11:44:00.000-05:00Disclaimer: no native speaker here.Often there is ...Disclaimer: no native speaker here.<BR/><BR/>Often there is no reply to a "thank you" and that's probably even more rude than a "no problem" or "sure".<BR/><BR/>I cannot remember that my English teacher taught me to reply to a "thank you" with "you're welcome" - I believe, I learned it from Usenet posts or so. So I am happy already when I don't forget the reply. :-)<BR/><BR/>Kind regards<BR/><BR/>robertroberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01724179181550310220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-35318186810205591202009-01-22T02:29:00.000-05:002009-01-22T02:29:00.000-05:00A person who hates to be a burden or interrupt oth...A person who hates to be a burden or interrupt others may out of empathy choose to say "no problem". That is a quicker way of saying "you are welcome again, this is what I do".Oyvind Isenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17143586629854631281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-25775766790295721122009-01-18T13:39:00.000-05:002009-01-18T13:39:00.000-05:00Sometimes I answer 'It was my pleasure' instead of...Sometimes I answer 'It was my pleasure' instead of 'you're welcome' if I feel the thank you was too generous. Sometimes 'you're welcome' just feels like 'oh, I absolutely deserved that thanks so you're welcome'.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15832458812249802060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-22709585975797297352009-01-16T19:09:00.000-05:002009-01-16T19:09:00.000-05:00In Dutch we'd also say "geen probleem" or "no prob...In Dutch we'd also say "geen probleem" or "no problem", if I remember correctly :-) <BR/>I do hear "no problem" or "sure" a lot too, maybe I even use it on occasion. And I must say that "sure" is much shorter and faster than "you're welcome"...jan van mourikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01002917626652330373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-11802771521153904122009-01-16T17:32:00.000-05:002009-01-16T17:32:00.000-05:00Since this is a "non-technical" topic, I will add ...Since this is a "non-technical" topic, I will add my two cents! I absolutely have my pet peeves (leaving your shopping cart in the middle of the parking lot is one of them), but I've been thinking about this one and wondering if perhaps some people who work with the public just get tired of saying the same thing. Maybe they try to vary their responses from "You're welcome" to an occasional "No problem" just so they don't have to say the same thing all day. I don't know for sure, but no response at all bothers me a lot more than some acknowledgment of my "Thank you." Oh, and by the way, "You're welcome for thanking me for reading, but I thank you for writing!"Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01958133923698606992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-6632814768378584892009-01-16T12:41:00.000-05:002009-01-16T12:41:00.000-05:00Gints and Robyn,It's funny that you mention the no...Gints and Robyn,<BR/><BR/>It's funny that you mention the non-native speakers and foreign language influences on American speech. I was thinking about that after I posted and it hit me that I don't get the same feeling that the response is rude if it's a non-native English speaker. I suppose that subconsciously I adjust what I expect to hear in that case...strange. But, I still get a rude or flippant vibe otherwise. <BR/><BR/>Actually, I think as much as anything how I react is based on voice tone and expression as it does what is said. <BR/><BR/>Well, at least now I have something else to ponder the next time I'm at Applebee's and the waiter says "No problem lady".Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309823327597536648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-20048660873441490702009-01-16T10:07:00.000-05:002009-01-16T10:07:00.000-05:00You're welcome. ;-)You're welcome. ;-)Don Fordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03407966599735179869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-12360501620845070172009-01-16T09:18:00.000-05:002009-01-16T09:18:00.000-05:00first things first .... you're welcome :)and if I ...first things first .... you're welcome :)<BR/><BR/>and if I have answered 'no problem' in the past, a brief explanation. I grew up in Southern California and we mixed Spanish with our English. In Spanish, the common answer to 'gracias' is 'de nada' (of nothing). As it was used, it implied that the task done to earn the thank you was only a small thing, and that the receipt of the thank you felt unworthy of thanks. 'No problem' to me is 'de nada', and years of living in the Southeast haven't undone my training either.<BR/><BR/>I believe the French 'de rein' is similar.Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09012591669491677657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518481768015386858.post-18400368141615595492009-01-16T06:44:00.000-05:002009-01-16T06:44:00.000-05:00Sometimes reason might be non native english speak...Sometimes reason might be non native english speakers, I bet. For example Latvians answer with phrase, which literally would be "please". So probably other nations answer with literally "no problem" :DGints Plivnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17716037729002528529noreply@blogger.com